- I hate that I have to ask and arrange get togetherness, I have to call or text my friends and family once in a while and that’s ok, but all the time. Why don’t they get how it hurts. All those that told me to call anytime, I’ll be there for you, let’s spend time together where are you? To me time=love and visiting me is honoring me. If I have to always set it up do they really want to be with me? Grief makes you more sensitive and sometimes what may not seem a big deal to others is magnified. I don’t want to be a whiner or ungrateful but please do less talking and more walking.